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Word of the Day: Suitor
Ah, the suitor.
The elusive creature that has been the subject of many a romantic comedy and Shakespearean play.
But what exactly is a suitor?
And how can one become a successful suitor without ending up in the friend zone?
According to Merriam-Webster, a suitor is “one who courts a woman or seeks to marry her” (or a man, let’s be inclusive here).
You probably don’t know what it means to ‘court’ or ‘woo’ someone.
Well, that’s easily explained.
When we are dating or even trying to get a date with someone, we are courting or wooing them.
There’s much more to being a suitor than showing interest in someone.
You can’t approach someone and say, “Hey, babe, I’m a suitor; let’s date.”
You must be charming, witty, and, most importantly, respectful.
If you want to get the girl, you have to woo the girl.
Girls want to be wooed even if they don’t know what wooing is.
Girls also like to smile.
If you can make a girl smile, you’re halfway to having a new girlfriend.
But how do you do that without coming across as creepy or desperate?
Girls don’t like creepy guys, and they feel sorry for desperate ones.
Well, that’s where the art of being a suitor comes in.
You need to be able to read the situation and adjust your approach accordingly.
Maybe the person you’re interested in is shy and needs encouragement to open up.
Or they’re more outgoing and need someone who can keep up with their energy.
One thing you should never do as a suitor is try to force something that isn’t there.
If the person you’re interested in isn’t into you, you’re not their Mr. Right.
Respect their feelings and move on.
There are plenty of fish in the sea.
Now, go forth and be the best suitor you can be.
But never actually use the word “suitor” in conversation.
Girls like smart guys, but sounding like you just stepped out of a Shakespearean play makes you, at best, ‘friend’ material.
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