Pushover

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Word of the Day: Pushover

Many Japanese are wired to seek approval and avoid confrontation.

However, we become pushovers when we allow others to walk all over us.

Times have changed.

Japanese are overworked, underpaid, and taken advantage of in the workplace daily.

Just because you don’t think you’re being abused doesn’t mean you are not.

Being a pushover means allowing others to take advantage of us without standing up for ourselves.

It could be because we want to avoid conflict or we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.

But being a pushover is never good and can lead to severe consequences.

Someone who is a pushover is easily influenced or manipulated by others.

They often lack self-confidence and are unable to stand up for themselves.

They frequently allow others to take advantage of them and can’t say no when asked to do something they don’t want to do.

Being a pushover means having little agency and allowing others to dictate your actions.

It’s important not to be a pushover because you will never get what you deserve if you are.

People will take advantage of you, and you will always feel powerless.

When you allow others to push you around, you are doing yourself a disservice.

You must fight for the things you want and take nothing as given.

Some Japanese work themselves to death because they have never learned to be assertive and enforce their boundaries.

Many companies, bosses and managers will push you past your breaking point and throw you away like garbage.

Learn to say no and mean it.

Stand up for yourself.

This does not imply that you have to be aggressive or confrontational, but you should have the courage of your convictions.

If you don’t value yourself and recognize your self-worth, why should others?

This post is understandable by someone with at least an 8th-grade education (age 13 – 14).

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